How can a wife make her estranged husband chose to either divorce her or end affair with other woman?

Married 15yrs with kids but dating OW over 2yrs. Estranged husband not living in marital home since affair was discovered. Husband says: wife can divorce him if she wants to and he is fine with dating the ow and ';he'; has no plans to divorce wife but he will sign if served. He also doesn't want to end relationship with this other woman? WTF gives?How can a wife make her estranged husband chose to either divorce her or end affair with other woman?
A wife can't force her husband to love her-especially her estranged one. The question should be, why is she even putting up with this unnecessary mess?





Let's break it down. He wants to be with the other woman-no if's, and's or but's about it. He won't file for divorce from his wife, or even make the effort to fix his marriage, but if served then he WILL sign. What gives?...He thinks he's a player and is apparently getting his way! He's living the luxury life in his world...He has a wife who after 2yrs of separating hasn't filed for divorce-so he's basically being allowed to have his fun elsewhere, but still has the option to come home if he chooses. He has zero consequences and he's milking it for all its worth.





His wife needs to divorce him and fast. She needs to collect on that spousal support and child support. Then she needs to move on with her life, and focus on the well being of the kids. I mean seriously, who's thinking about them? Obviously he doesn't care for his family because a real man would put his family first. If he didn't want to be in the marriage anymore he should've simply divorced his wife, situate the children making sure they would be able to get through their parents divorcing, THEN, have fun on his own terms. Instead, he chose to not only hurt the woman he spent 15 yrs with, but his children, and another female's life because she's dating a man that she'll never have a future with considering he can't even divorce his wife! He's simply an irresponsible man whose priorities are nowhere but onto his own selfish self. He doesn't deserve to be called a father for what he's putting his kids through and he by no means is the ideal example of what a husband or possible husband should be. His ex-wife is only hurting herself and the kids. If it's been this way for 2yrs, there's no way that things can be solved w/out major therapy.





If she really needs some hope besides the fact that she's proving to be a strong independant mother by divorcing his ***...I can guarantee once he see's the reality of his actions I'm pretty sure he won't be far from camping outside the house asking for forgiveness.How can a wife make her estranged husband chose to either divorce her or end affair with other woman?
Woman you need to stop talking and make it happen.Its clear that he will not change, so instead of stressing yourself, leave him. Why would you take his s%26amp;^% anyway, what holds you back , I mean technically you are separated so take the step and dump his a$$. Have some dignity will ya. The kids will be fine trust me. Focus on yourself and move on will ya...
He does not want to pay for the divorce, that's the bottom line. Get the divorce and get it over with.
So just file for divorce... he does not even need to sign... it takes longer but you should just leave him...
Wow. What a dick.