How should one be toward those who encourge your wife to have an affair?

If those a woman considers as friends, tries to bring down a loving husband and encourage someone leave their husband to be with an old boyfriend (who also left his wife and kids) so they could be together, and then the wife leaves and then goes back to the husband, how should the husband view that so called friend? There is no domestic violence...Husband has been faithful, helps take care of the 4 children and the house responsibilities. How should he address his concerns with the wife about her choice of Friends?How should one be toward those who encourge your wife to have an affair?
The husband should explain how he feels about about the wife friends. If the wife wishes to continue to see the friends... the the husband should deeply consider not getting back with wife. Marriage is all about working together and compromising with each other when times get difficult.





The friends are not to blame for the wife actions. The wife is an adult and has to take responsibly for her actions. You may not know the entire truth about the friends... but the wife can say no at any point and time and if she cannot... then the husband should move on with his life.How should one be toward those who encourge your wife to have an affair?
Don't presume your wife's friend is against you, or encouraging her to have an affair. A woman's friends are loyal to them, and want--only--their friend's happiness. That's friendship and loyalty. What you see as bashing may simply be validating your wife when she vents.





Don't be hypersensitive. Now, if the comments cross a line by constantly criticizing you in a mean spirited way, you should talk to your wife about how it makes you feel. Don't be attacking or blaming. Tell her you will try provide opportunities for her friend to view a different perspective and you hope they will both be open to the alternate view of you.
nice friends! I would ask her what they do as a group and if you still feel they're a bad influence you have to tell her how u feel, i know this can be hard for some dudes but ya gotta tell her it makes you uncomfortable other wise she might be more driven to cheat... make her feel more included and if there's 4 kids involved I would make a drastic increase in family activities, therefore she has less time to hang out with those scumbags, and if she doesnt wanna spend time with the kids and her hubby (supposed to be the most importantpeople in her life) then she is a selfish selfcentered ***** and doesnt deserve 4 beautiful kids and a husband who is nothing but faithful, do what u think is right and be there for your kids
Those are her choice of friends.. If the wife was stupid enough to take their advice then how should you be toward the person who actually took the advice.?





Friends are always putting their ';two cents'; in. Or saying Girl If I wa you this is what I would do. Advice isn't always meant to take it. It's just another person's opinion on a situation. and a person should always weigh their options before taking another one's opinion. But misery loves company. Not sure why they would tell her to have an affair especially if you say the husband is doing what he is suppose to be doing. So how are you going to act toward the wife who left the husband? Good Luck.
If it was me in that position, I would tell her to lay down the law with her friends and tell them how disrespectful it is to her to insult her marriage like that. And if that cannot happen, she needs to cut ties with these so called friends. And if that cannot happen, I would drop her like a ton of bricks because she is not mature enough to be in a long term relationship.
I'd say your very first step is to get into Retrouvaille immediately. http://www.retrouvaille.org/ This will help you learn to communicate through this time and help you both work with each other to heal over the past.





The friends.. there's little you can do about them. That she wants to keep them says more than it should. The absolute truth is no one can talk you into leaving a spouse or having an affair. The friends were only telling her what she wanted to hear. Could anyone, before all of this, have talked you into cheating or leaving your wife? She probably lied to these friends as well. Trust me.. you don't hear your friend saying over and over again how happy she is and how wonderful her husband is and then say.. oh go leave him and be with another guy. They are the excuse you and your wife are using to cover up something much more important.
Anything that is bad for your marriage needs to go. If this friend is causing problems, that friend needs to go.





Something you may need to look at. You say the husband does all this stuff for his wife. If that is true that is great. But is he doing as much as he says he is. Is this guy fufilling a need the husband isn't?
you need to maybe talk to the friend and tell her to be a better friend to your wife and leave her alone and to let her make her own mind on what she wants to do..you also need to talk to wife and let her know how you feel about her friend and maybe help her open her eyes so she can see for herself that this is not a good friend at all.. good luck..
How he should address his concerns: with righteous anger. If it were me, there would be some loudness involved, some finger pointing, and some ultimatums issued. It's just wrong to be nice regarding a person who is a destructive influence on a marriage - wrong!
I would land myself in jail, but I'd put my fist in the mouth of anyone suggesting my wife sleep with someone behind my back. If it was someone I considered a friend who was betraying me in that manner, I'd bury them alive and camp the night above their tomb.
That's harsh dude. The ';wife'; is lucky the poor husband took her back. He should stand up for his family (4 kids!!) and make her kick those ';friends'; out of her life. Your real friends want whats best for you and your family.
Make sure that your wife know that that particular friend is not welcome in your home. Then through a great party that your wife can not invite her friend too. Keep throughing parties and not inviting the friend. Eventually there will be a tiff between them.
Well if the guy takes her back he certainly knows what he is getting. If she continues to associate with that 'friend' he shouldn't waste his time with her. Time for for him to look for a little more quality.