Wife hanging out with supervisor and talking graphic sex stuff. Is that okay?

Let me tell you a story: A Day in the Life of a Wife.





A husband gives his wife a kiss and off to work he goes. The wife gets up and takes care of their two young daughters and does her motherly thing.





Then around 10:30 AM she decides to text her old good friend/boyfriend Tom to see what he is up too. They spend the next hour and a half texting maybe twenty five messages back and forth. The content unknown, but certainly getting into some conversation that keeps both of their interest for the extended period of time.





Then she takes her youngest daughter to the baby sitter and drops off the car seats to her husband at his work. (he picks them up after work) There he gives her a hug and kiss and texts her as she is driving away “you smell nice”.





She arrives to work and stops by her supervisor’s office. They start with a little chit chat and quickly the subject changes to sex talk. They talk about what intimate moments in graphic sexual detail what they did with their spouses last night. Then there is some playful mocking and joking about exchanging sexual favors. Then they both finally separate and she leaves his office to her work station.





Then later in the evening they are emailing back and forth about their weekend and then the dirty sexually graphic joking starts. He starts and she continues. This goes on for ten messages or so. Jokingly describing sexual acts to do to each other and joking how moist she is and how pre-*** is forming on the tip of his penis. Real graphic stuff.





She gets back to work and later emails come in suggesting they go for a drink after work because they both agree work sucks for tonight. Of course the man picks up on the word “sucks” and follows up with more dirty messages and she plays along. It ends with him wanting to feel her clean shaven lower area. Because earlier she mentioned that her husband had requested she shave it clean. She laughs to herself and responds with some teasing message. She logs off and meets him at the bar. There she sits with him chatting and teasing. He makes gestures when no one is looking to put his hand down your pants for that “peachy feel” now. She teases and swipes his hand away and says “me first”. They laugh and have another beer.





More drinks, a good buzz and now they decide to meet at the 7/11 for a sobering coffee. Who knows what happens after that….





The wife comes home and it is 3:15 AM. Her husband is in bed pretending that he is asleep only wondering where the hell she has been. And why she smells like smoke. He “awakes” and asked why she is home so late. She says she worked late and stopped by her mothers on the way home.





She climbs into bed and her busy day is over.





Now, is this wife doing anything that might be considered cheating, disrespectful, betrayal to the marriage? Is any of this considered an affair. At this time no physical contact has been proven. Of course the wife says no contact every happened.





This is a true story. It went on for a year and a half until the husband found the obsessive history of emails on the phone bill to one particular number. Under further suspicion he acquired access to the wife’s work emails. Where there in her inbox were a years plus worth of foul perverted exchanges they joked about or their private husband/wife conversations spelled out there clearly to this Supervisor/Friend.





The wife feels she did nothing wrong and the texting the “ex” was just to pass the time and meant nothing. The emails and flirtatious sexual play was all harmless fun.





There is more to the story but this is the basis of the situation.





What is the husband to make of this? When confronted through this ordeal the wife lied about everything!!Wife hanging out with supervisor and talking graphic sex stuff. Is that okay?
They are boning!Wife hanging out with supervisor and talking graphic sex stuff. Is that okay?
Didnt read all of it... No need to... Its never okay for a wife to be talking sexually with another man, nor is it okay to lie about it. It sounds like more than just an employee-boss type of relationship. She should either stop all together and agree to marriage counselling (because obviously something is missing if she's searching elsewhere for that kind of attention) or the husband better leave and when filing for divorce, state that infedelity was involved. He may not get the kids, but at least he'll have a chance of finding someone worth his time and he'll still be in his children's life.
Whether anything happened or not, this is definitely crossing the line, and is almost as bad as cheating. You need to be honest about how it makes you feel, and she needs to understand the hurt caused to you and end it.
It's an emotional affair at minimum. The wife clearly is looking for something outside of her marriage that she doesn't find in it. The grass is never greener on the other side (clearly, the wife doesn't realize this yet) and this can be fixed but truth and honesty have to come to the forefront. Counseling is necessary and the wife can no longer send those kinds of texts, messages, meetings and think that's okay. It's not.





Bottomline: ';When someone shows you who they are, believe them.'; -Maya Angelou





This marriage can be saved but it's going to take serious commitment, honesty and work.
That's some lady you married. Wow.
WTF?





You don't need to come HERE for validation.





Divorce the slut.
';There is no unfaithful wife, it is only a matter of time and place'; I cannot remember who said this but I found it to be true.
I do not know how much of this is fact or your imagination, but if you have seen these kinds of emails, that is so not appropriate. People who do stuff like this often claim they have done nothing wrong because they have no real sense of what is right and what is wrong.





This sounds like a deal breaker to me. Good luck.
he should leave this woman shes probably gonna end up breaking his heart and shes lying to him that's already breaking one of the lords commandments
You believe your wife? If the shoe was on the other foot, you would be sleeping on the couch at the very least, but most woman would have kicked you out, called you a cheater, and would have been done with you. Besides 1 in 4 have an STD in the USA and if your willing to chance your life on the behavior of your wife, um just go get tested asap.
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